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Tim Schnabel is a retired marriage and family therapist from Walton County.

Schnabel: Unconventional? Nothing wrong with that

Posted: Saturday, November 9, 2019 12:00 am

Sandi and Mike have never been a conventional couple. Nevertheless, Nancy and I have admired and cared for them as they have been following their dreams and honoring their commitments for the past 30-years. They met as servers at the long defunct restaurant chain Steak and Ale in Stone Mountain. Sandi was single, supporting the first of many horses she would own until this year. She was also a full-time college student completing her degree in business. Mike was divorced with three sons, working a poorly compensated full-time job he abhorred as a supervisor over many women. But he thoroughly enjoyed waiting tables in the evenings. They married in February of 1990, while Nancy and I exchanged vows that May. They are a dozen years younger than us. We saw them from time to time and enjoyed their company.

They did their best with weekend visits with Mike’s three sons and it was not easy as they did not see eye-to-eye with the ex-wife’s parenting. In 1994 they disclosed to us they were quitting their jobs, selling their home and heading to Las Vegas. Mike felt he would be just as effective having his sons stay with them for several weeks at a time rather than the short weekends he was getting. Family and most friends pushed back on their decision to relocate with harsh judgments. Nancy and I said words to the effect that we would miss them and encouraged them to go for their dreams.

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