In the last three articles I wrote about love and long term relationships between the spouses and relationships between adult children and aging parents. This will be the last article of the series where I write the conclusions concerning the need to have these types of relationships that are so essential in our everyday walk in life. In these articles I was not able to explore beyond the basic principles of these relationships, the diverse majority of which would take up several volumes of literature prohibit it.
I have learned about two very important parts located of the brain called amygdala. They are located on either side of the brain. Their job is to control our emotional feeling and the recognition of the emotional significance of family and friends along with our memory inflection. Without them one loses their ability to have any emotional feeling and any perception of what it means to love anything.
This means that because of having amygdalae we humans long for companionship. King Solomon wrote in the scriptures: “Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment.” In our pop-culture lyricist Bob Merrill wrote, “People who need people are the luckiest people in the world.” Human social interaction is vital to our survival. It doesn’t matter in the least if one is single, married, old, young, male, female; regardless of race, culture, or any other description, we desire to have a relationship that will fulfill our basic emotional needs, in essence having something to cling to, a “security blanket” such as Linus had in the Charlie Brown comic book series.
From Visions.org a question is posed concerning the needs of family relationships, “How important is our need for this type of social bonds? So important that we come into the world with it, just as we arrive with a need for food and water, clothing and shelter: If any of these requirements is missing, we fail to thrive.”
It has also been reported that, “As we age, friends tend to outnumber family ties, giving them an ever more important role in keeping us healthy. Friendships serve other important functions. In part, we learn about whom we are and who we hope to become through feedback from others. With some of these others, we will have deep and lasting relationships. With some we’ll have more casual relationships. But the importance of what we learn about ourselves from their feedback may have very little to do with the perceived depth of the individual relationship. Even our most casual relationships are capable of influencing us in surprisingly profound ways, as some researchers have found, and even in the Internet age it seems that friendships remain very diverse and complex in the lives of most people.”
Those who know me well will testify that one of the most important things that I can do is to value highly those people who are willing to help others in times of adversity as well as in prosperity. For when one sees the soul of another he sees the essence of true love. We all at one time or another will need the shoulder of another to lean on. One other thing that must be said, when one finds the essence of true love in another one will find great humility which is a virtue given only by God.
“It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.” John Joseph Powell, The Secret of Staying in Love