Many years ago I was told I have the ability to tell a person to go to hell and make him look forward to the trip.

I’m not sure if this is a good or a bad character trait.

I was informed of this by a good friend who was paying attention to how I talked and my interaction with other people. So why is it so important this writer has something we all need to know a little more about?

This week’s column will tackle another subject where much research has been done concerning our own character traits. The old expression that actions speak louder than words is very true when it comes to character traits. It has been said that one learns more about one’s self by the way others react to your interactions or dealings.

One can say it’s like having a gut feeling or a basic instinct of having a charisma that attracts or a repulsiveness one feels when in the presence of another. It’s this psychic ability to detect the interactions of others that draws us together or pushes us apart.

Well, if you are still reading this, you might wonder where this is leading. I titled this article, “Over 35 years of giving out smiles.” My basic temperament seems to be that of being an extrovert. So what is an extrovert?  Basically, an extrovert is a person who is energized by being around other people.

Here’s something else to consider: Over the course of a lifetime, we seniors often become more agreeable and conscientious due to greater emotional maturity.  Is this just a natural part of aging or do our personalities change because we work to make ourselves more agreeable and conscientious?

Over the many years I have endeavored to keep in contact with so many people, some have left for greener pastures and have become fading memories.

All of us at one time will ask ourselves: “What ever happened to so and so?”  Just the other day my brother called and asked if I knew a Gretchen H.? She was a fellow student in high school; just sent her a friend request on Facebook.

I can’t possibly tell you just how much joy I receive from being with others; to share all my wisdom in helping those who just need to chat with another soulmate or listening to others tell their stories about being human.

Sometimes it takes a little practice to be able to see the silver lining in the darkest cloud and react in a manner to share with your friends that we’re not the only persons on earth that has to get by one’s bad hair days or to celebrate just being alive. My ambition is to make one smile before parting for the day so when we meet the next time, I remember that facial expression, that last smile that tells me life is still good. This is one way to nourish true friendships and promote a lifelong trust with one another.

It has been said, “A guy and a gal can be just friends but at one point or another one of them will fall for the other, maybe temporarily, maybe at the wrong time, maybe too late or maybe, just maybe… forever.

So when you are out and about and someone smiles at you, please take no offense, the thought of one smiling at you tells you they are friendly and that your reactions will speak louder than words.

“If smiles were ever thought of as being a treasure, I would be the richest person on earth.” — Nick Harmon

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